Go Back In Time

If you are like me you engage in a lot of self talk, both good and bad. When it comes to our relationships, especially our marriages negative self talk can be incredibly destructive. And it is a major disservice to our partners since they don't even get a "real" word in edgewise.

One of the frameworks that I use on a regular basis is I ask myself, "what would I have done when we were dating?" You see, the thing is, at least for me, when I was dating Hannah I wanted to impress her in all aspects of life.  I would have watched a thousand romantic comedies (I love StarWars, StarTrek and LOTR), I would have eaten a thousand salads at Ground Round (I love BBQ and Chinese), I would have went to a thousand dinner parties (I love staying at home watching StarWars, StarTrek, and LOTR whilst eating BBQ and Chinese Food), I would have done a thousand chores. You get the picture.

Whenever you have the chance to do something or not do something. To react or not react. Ask yourself, what would you have done when you were dating.

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